4/18/2010 6:48 PM
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luci1313- positive thoughts to you!!!
I have just about had it!!!! girls I am bleeding again- yup started last night- freakin lovely!!!! I don't know what to think of any of this and honestly i am pretty frustrated. I am on hormones controlling my body and look at what is going on, my own normal hormones don't do this to me, I don't get it!!!!!!!! Also not to burst anyone happy thoughts, but I am doing the progesterone shots and inserts and I am having the same cramping that I have when I do IVF, and there r no embies inside me, then again keep in mind my body is a freakin mess so i wouldn't consider anything my body goes through as normal- UGH!!!!
Is there anyone out there who has gone through all this bleeding crap who can give me somewhat of a sign as to what is going on, apparently my doctors can't figure it out!!!!! Can't wait to call tomorrow and tell them I am bleeding again!! HA!!! now what?????!!!!
Until tomorrow ladies, I have to go clean some more!
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4/18/2010 2:16 PM
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luci1313 - good luck and happy positive thoughts!
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4/18/2010 1:50 PM
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Well ,good luck to you! Keep positive, healthy thoughts ok? !!
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4/18/2010 1:33 PM
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I am new to this site. I have never posted on any sites before. I am 29 years old and I have PCOS. We tried IUIs. We got pregnant on the second try, but at 17 weeks we found out that I had thrown a clot and killed the baby. We found out that I have MTHFR mutation. We took six months off because I just couldn't do it. We did 3 more IUIs, no luck. My doctor wanted to start Ivf in Nov, but I decided to take time off , because my dad died suddenly of a heart attack 2 weeks before. We started the Ivf process in Feb. I had 25 follicles. We ended up with 28 eggs. We did icsi on 20 , 3 regular and 5 were not mature. We had to freeze the embryos because I became hyperstimulated. We ended up freezing 15 embryos. I just had my transfer on April 9th. We transferred 3 with assisted hatching. My bloodwork is looking good so far. Tomorrow I go in for a pregnancy test. I am terrified. I am afraid that it didn't work and who knows when we will have the money to try again. I am afraid that it will work . I will be happy but scared. I have had a loss at 9 wks also. If it is positive only family and my 2 best friends get to know until 20 weeks. I need someone o siphon off the crazy for my husband. Pleas wish me luck.
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4/18/2010 8:54 AM
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Nwells - Hang in there. They will figure it all out for you. Sometimes it just takes a little time.
Irishgirl, I believe implantation can happen anywhere from day 5-12 after ovulation (when trying on your own) so not sure when it happens when taking the route of IVF.
And, yes, the cramping can be a good sign, it can mean implantation. Drink plenty of water as it is is suppose to help the blood flow to your uterus which is VERY important during pregnancy.
Best wishes to all on their 2ww. Sending baby dust your way!!
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4/17/2010 7:56 PM
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Hello ladies, it has been a while!!!
Scots and FanSox Hello and welcome!!!! I don't really follow Baseball, but I am a Mets fan!! the Hubby is a Yankee fan- talk to me in Sept when Football starts!!!! I am already counting down!!!
So I went to the RE on Wed and the fellow who did my ultra sound had no answers for me, but I am officially the "special case" every one in the Yale Infertility office knows about my case and is trying to come up with answers, it makes me cry just thinking about it all!!!! And get this my lining was at 8 and my blood work was right where it should have been!!! I wish they had me go in on Sat when I was bleeding to see if my estrogen was right then!! So my body is a medical mystery. everything is pointing to the agnamiwhatever you call it thing, I won't know anything until after the 26th when i go in for the biopsy of my lining. I have been up and down lately. Good luck to those ladies who are in the 2WW!!! Cramps are common, get plenty of down time, find a good book to read, relax and eat pineapple
well have a great night and Sunday ladies, I will be doing the MS walk here in CT, one of my former students was diagnosed in 2006 and since 2007 our school has done the walk. She is a fighter, and at times makes what I am going through seem like nothing. Love YA all!!!!
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4/17/2010 7:02 PM
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Also, Fensox and Scots, in regard to the cramping,make sure you are drinking LOTS of fluids- 120- 150 oz a day and not just water but drinks with electrolytes like juice and gatorade. I think the theories on bedrest vary but my MD has me on pretty strict bedrest- laying on my back for 48 hrs. I am technically done tomorrow at noon but i'm off on MOnday so I"m going to carry it thru Sunday and Monday. Then 5 days of light activitiy- as in no housework or shopping. Who knows if it makes a difference? I mean, women get pregnant all the time and don't know it and continuie their normal activiites. I just want to do anything possible to increase my chances, I am pretty nervous about having the same outcome as last time. Back to my couch .......
PS Does anyone know when implantation occurs?
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4/17/2010 3:19 PM
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Ok, I was not told bedrest. I was told to take it easy for 24 hours and then I could do normal things but nothing rigorous. Should I be nervous? I have not been in bed, but been resting and taking it easy going from the couch, bed and desk (computer). I am also not aware of the pineapple. Hmmmm. Wish I found you ladies sooner. Hopefully I have nothing to worry about.
I am not sure I know the grade of my embryos (they may have told me but it has all been overwhelming). They did transfer 2 embryos though.
I wish everyone luck!
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4/17/2010 2:39 PM
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Hi all-
Fensox and Scots, I am right here with you , bored on bedrest!!! I had my transfer Friday and I was very disappointed to hear that only 2 embryos had survived until that point. So they put them both in, a grade 3 and a grade 4 (scale is 1-5 with 1 being the best). So I am very worried about the quality of the embryos. We did IVF last year and had 2 grade 3's and it didn't work. But I am hoping for the best and eating my pineapple and resting.... I go for bloodwork for progesterone level on the 20th and then pregnancy test is the 27th. Good luck to you guys!
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4/16/2010 9:59 PM
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Scots and Fensox - Welcome to the forum and good luck to you! I hope to hear positive results from the both of you at the end of the month. I go in for my transfer on the 29 so long as everything goes as planned up to then.
So I've been having some cramping today, I don't remember if I had that with the other 2 cycles. I hope taking that lupron shot an hour late the other night didn't mess things up.
Irishgirl - how did your transfer go this morning? I hope to hear from you soon.
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4/16/2010 4:57 PM
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The 26th. It seems like a LONG time away, doesn't it?? After 2 failed attempts at IUI and now the IVF that we are trying I have learned to be more patient this time. And trying to be calm! After all we have all been through to get to this point, I figure it's a piece of cake right now. Except for those awful progesterone shots every night! Ha!
P.S. Go Red Sox! Even though we are in CA, my husband and I are huge BoSox fans! Your name caught my eye right away!
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4/16/2010 4:21 PM
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Scots - Thank you for the encouragement. I have been doing nothing but relaxing and trying to nap. Laying very low and trying not to go crazy. Fingers crossed for you When is your test? Mine is the 27th.
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4/16/2010 4:19 PM
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I am in MA, but did not use him. My doctor is with Newton-Wellesley but my procedures have all been done with Brigham & Women's.
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4/16/2010 3:34 PM
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FenSox, are you in MA? If so, did you happen to use Dr. Cardone? He was my doctor and I have nothing but good things to say about him. I've heard many good stories. Good luck!
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4/16/2010 3:33 PM
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Scouts and Fenbox, I had tons of cramping. I was also bloated constantly. I was worried too that the cramping was from the retrieval because I was crampy from the time they did the retrieval for probably a good week after it. I thought "how can this work if I am still crampy from the retrieval". It worked!
I know it's so hard, but try not to read into every little thing. You will drive yourself crazy. Have positive thinking that it worked, and take it easy. Good luck to both of you! If you have any other questions, let us know.
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4/16/2010 3:23 PM
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I had my embryo transfer on monday, and believe me I am feeling the same way. My nurse told me that a little cramping is actually a good sign. Sometimes we cramp when the embryo's are attaching themselves to the walls of out uterus. I took a lot of naps, (that's good for your body) and read a lot. Not much else we can do!!! Good luck!
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4/16/2010 9:00 AM
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I had my first embryo transfer on Wednesday. I have been resting and relaxing since then but I have all of the questions and thoughts in my head. Anyone have any suggestions/ thoughts on how to get through this time? Every time i feel a little cramp, I am worried. Could I still be having slight cramping from the retrieval? Wish I had someone here to talk to that has been through this, anyone of you able to help and support?
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4/15/2010 9:16 PM
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Irishgirl - Good luck tomorrow! I hope all goes well. Enjoy the relaxation this weekend.
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4/15/2010 7:46 PM
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Ladybug- I wouldn't worry about the Lupron shot. My doctor told me I have a one hour window, for example from 9-10 pm to take the Lupron shot.
Ok girls, I am ready. My transfer is scheduled for 10:45 am tomorrrow. Today I cleaned my house and cooked a bunch of food and made arrangements to take my dog to "doggie daycare" so I can take it easy the next few days. I have my pineapple all cut up. I also read somewhere that it is good to have a lot of protein, especially eggs. So I will have eggs and pineapple juice for breakfast tomorrow morning. As far as I know we are transferring 2 embryos. I am starting Arixtra shots tonight - a blood thinner. Something about problems with blood flow to the placenta last time. Thanks everyone for your support and good wishes!
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4/14/2010 10:22 PM
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Oh, Irishgirl, how many are you transferring?
One more thing, I took my lupron shot 1 hour late last night. Is that a big deal?
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4/14/2010 10:20 PM
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Irishgirl - My first IVF cycle, if I remember right, they retrieved 7 eggs, 5 fertilized, they transfered 3 embryos and 2 took. So 8 eggs I think is great. That is plenty. My FET is tentatively scheduled for April 29, which happens to be 2 weeks from tomorrow. I cannot wait, very anxious.
Good night sisters. Off to bed now.
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4/14/2010 10:20 PM
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Hello Nwells- I am so sorry you are having a bad day, I am sending you a hug over the internet, and opening up the medicine bag for a swing of medicine. Please take it easy and just think of the wonderful outcome once the RE can figure out what it going on. We love you and will be there for you when you feel better.
Hello Irish Girl- Good luck on Friday. I was blessed like you I had 8 eggs , 5 fertilized and we transferred 2. Please stay off your feet, rest 5 days of it. Eat your Pineapple stating tomorrow. Don't ask me why but it worked for me and some of the other sisters as well. And drink lots and lots of water.
As for me I have been playing the waiting game. I am not ready to start yet because God has not given us the financial go ahead yet. We will not be able to move forward until September the way it is looking. On a lighter note, today is the 15th anniversary of the first time my husband and I said we loved each other. I can't believe it has been 15 years !!!!! The only thing missing is a little baby in the house. On a funny note we have a friend who has a 10 month old baby and she has been on loaner these last few weeks. She is so cute, all 30 pounds of her. She is the happiest baby you could ever meet. I love putting her down and letting her crawl around the house, she always seems to make the house feel more alive. So it will be worth the wait till September if my snow babies turn out to be like her, well maybe a bit lighter, since she kills my back when I take her to church with me, hahah.
Kisses and love to all of you sisters and remember to never lose the faith.
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4/14/2010 9:16 PM
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Hi everyone-
NWells: hope your day gets better, I know you are very frustrated. Sometimes each new thing that the doctors learn is another piece of the puzzle and when they put it all together they can better figure out how to treat you and increase the chances of success next time!
epilady- I totally get where you are coming from and sometimes it seems so unfair that EVERYONE else in the world is pregnant. People can be so insensitive when they say things like, "When are you going to have kids? Don't wait too long!!" It can really sting and they have no idea how hard this can be for some of us.
Ladybug: How are you doing? When is your FET?
So I had my retrieval yesterday and I am still sore. They got 8 eggs. Last year when we did IVF the doctor retrieved 19 eggs. Of course this worries me and I think that it must be because I am now a full year older. But the doctor's office seems fine with 8, all we need is one good one right? And apparently all 19 were no good last year because the IVF was completely unsuccessful. The RE's office called today and said that we have fertilization in 5 eggs. Again, all we need is one right? I am so nervous!! Transfer is sheduled for Friday....
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4/14/2010 8:59 PM
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Nwells. OMG, I cannot believe what happened. So weird that you would start bleeding like that. Please let us know what the dr says. I hope your cycle is still ok. I hope you are feeling ok.
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4/14/2010 8:14 AM
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Good morning ladies. Thank you for all of the good advice...it really does help put my mind at ease! This site is absolutely wonderful! This process would be so much more difficult without this support.
NWells- OMG! I can understand why you are soooo frustrated!! Hang in there...good luck at you appointment, hopefully you will get some answers.
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4/13/2010 8:59 PM
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Hey ladies,
making this pretty general, I am an emotional mess!!! Welcome to the newbies, I will offer up advice on a different day. Just got into it w/ my brother it wasn't really bad but enough to make my blood boil because my hormones are everywhere. So speak of hormones- I am on lupron, 10 cc a night, NOW it is to my knowledge that Lupron is supposed to be used to help with endo and any other possible uterine problem you may have, Right???? So I have been on estrogen pills too, so I started to be crampy and spot last Wed- when I went for my 3d U/S which they said everything looked great, my uterus looked good, my ovaries are fine, but I have not heard anything in relation to what they were looking for, the agnamiosis ( however it is spelled). SO Saturday I get cramps like I have to use the bathroom and WHOOSH!! BLOOD!!! and I mean bad!!! It was globs!!!!! (like I use to get) I called the doc, on call in a panic, THIS shouldn't be happening on LUPRON?????????? So here I am on Tuesday still bleeding minor, I go tomorrow for blood work and ultra sound and hopefully for answers as to why this is happening, I probably have no lining left, which is what they plan to biopsy at the end of all of this. My Body is a Freak of nature and I am just all done if they can't give me answers I am done!!! Why is this happening???? Well I have to go to my lupron shot!
Talk to you all later!!!!
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4/11/2010 10:22 PM
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@irish - good luck with the retrieval! So sorry to hear about your grandmother. I'm glad you're getting the acupuncture and that it helped relieve some stress.
@Mummy - wtg! Go, beta go!! I've done heparin 2x and I actually don't think it's worse than the progesterone. The main thing that I do is inject it slowly. I've found that really helps decrease the brusing. I was trying to make an abstract design on my belly but that ended up not working because a couple of the bruises spread. But it was fun to try!
@Nwells - sorry Wed was so hard. Hope to hear good results soon, though.
@btobe - welcome!
@Ladybug - the good news is it's a wedding and you can cry and people will attribute it to the wedding. But I hope for you that you won't need to! And there is no age limit on bridesmaids/matrons. A friend of mine had one that was 20 years older than all of us - one of her very best friends. And she was cool!
@ocamuswo - listen to your gut. It will tell you when to stop. But there are plenty of women who get pregnant in their 40s. Why did they cancel the cycle? Hang in there - hope to hear more from you soon.
@Lucky - they say to only do what we can handle. Don't feel badly if you can't go see your boss. It's more important that you take care of your emotional well-being. If you can do it, go ahead, but don't put
Along those lines, I delivered food this week to my friend who had her second. That was hard emotionally, mostly because one of her other friends dropped by to see me - I haven't seen her since I took her food after her baby's birth (my first was due two weeks after hers). It was actually harder for me to see the one that was closer in age to the "might have been" than the newborn. The newborn was squalling and I took him - he quieted down and her MIL said, "You should have kids. You've got the touch." Ouch. I had been doing okay up until that point. I feel a little despair that it's not going to happen for me. I also got really angry when I (stupidly) watched the 20/20 thing about the woman with 4 kids who didn't know she was pregnant, and gave birth in the bathtub. The story ended with something like "God has a plan for your life, and this one was just meant to be." I still struggle with that (as evidenced by my earlier posts.)
My husband also experienced something similar this weekend - he was at a party and their 4 year old loved him. She told him he was her new best friend. The couple said, "You're great with kids. You'd make a great dad. Hope you guys decide to have kids."
So both of us are a little mad at the universe right now. My husband and I went through so much to stay married. He worked really hard. I hung in there like a trouper. And I want nothing more than for us to be pregnant, where he can put his hands on my belly and feel the baby move, and know that's why we went through all of this - for that little miracle. Of course, we're both glad now that we went through it all, because it did make us have a stronger marriage, and he truly became my best friend.
So I went and pulled a lot of ivy out of the back yard. Someday it will all be gone - maybe sooner rather than later if I keep having days like this.
Hope you ladies had a nice weekend. We finally had good weather, so I enjoyed the sun.
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4/11/2010 8:54 PM
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Hi all-
Went to RE's today for US and BW .I have 12 mature follicles and we are scheduled for the retrieval on Tuesday. I am about to do my trigger shot right now. I am feeling emotional and very bloated and sort of overwhelmed but I am excited and hopeful. My grandmother passed away this weekend so it has been a very stressful few days. I did feel that the acupuncture sessions helped to calm me down. Anybody have any tips for the day of the retrieval or tips for success the day of the transfer?
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4/11/2010 6:47 PM
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Hello ladies,
I hope everyone is having a great weekend...with the sun shining and weather is getting warmer. Welcome to new ladies as I always say....u came to the right place during this hard ongoing process.
Mummy, congratulations! I am so happy for you...and getting pregnant on your own is always so amazing I mean u were just off the medics and the last disappointment. And if what the RE said it happened as a result of the medics that is great -- God has his ways of mending things. Keep us informed on how things are going with you.
Wannabe, have a great trip! And you do deserve a break!
Ladybug - good luck with the FFT and praying for ositive results.
NWells - I know and understand your feelings during your visit....u feel like being hit by the truck emtionally after those visits....pray u don't have to go back again. I always hated those visits and the torture I go thru...and that is thru my cycle...just feel that my doc nurse know the end result...isn't weird when u get that feeling from them. Anyhow, wish u luck with everything..
Mablackie13 - it is great to hear about the babies and I hope you take it easy on yourself and not too get too worried---it is going fine God willing.
Anyhow,,baby dust to all...have a great upcoming week
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4/10/2010 7:13 PM
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btope,
Welcome to the group. This group of women are so supportive and wonderful! IVF is great because your chances of getting pregnant go up singnifcanly then compared with an IUI. I had 3 failed IUI's as well and then switched to IVF and got pregnant my first IVF. Here is some advice.
First, whether your doctor says to or not, after the transfer, take a few days bed rest. Everyone I know who's gotten a positive result was on bed rest for 2 to 4 days. The way I looked at it was that there was no way these babies were not going to stick because I did nothing but lay on the couch for 4 days. I didn't even shower until the 4th day. I'm not saying that is the reason why it worked, but I was willing to do anything.
Do the shots at the exact same time every day!
If you are progesterone shots, ask this group about tricks to make it less painful. Those shots can suck, but if you know what to do, they aren't that bad at all.
Once you get to the cycle, ask us questions! I always posted things to see if what I was feeling was normal. This group is wonderful for that!
Ladybudy, good luck with your FET cycle. It sounds like things are looking good. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
Mummy, congratulations! Getting pregnant on your own is always so inspirint. Keep us informed on how things are going. Good luck with the pregnancy!
Wannabe, have a great trip! You are an amazing woman and deserve a break! I read this post the other day and thoguht of you (even though I've never met you). It said something about "you are braver then you know and stronger then you think". Good things happen to good people and i know things will start to go your way soon!
As for me, things are going well . My shower was fun and since we don't know what we are having, we got a bunch of the essential things. I am almost 23 weeks and still feeling good. i'm still walking every day and doing most normal activites. I am still trying to take it easy each day. I've had 2 level 2 ultrasounds now and the babies both look great, the placnetas look good, and my cervix is still over 4 cm. The babies move tons now and that is such a fun feeling. Even though we are starting to collect items, diapers, and have the baby furnitre ordered, I am still nervous. After what happened to Wannabe, it's hard to get too excited. I know that can happen to anyone.
Good luck with all of the upcoming cycles!
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4/10/2010 9:26 AM
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Good morning everyone. Thank goodness it is the weekend...the sun is shining here and that seems to make everything a little bit easier. It has been so hard for me to concentrate at work lately, so the weekends are such a relief.
Years ago I was on clomid for several months, and even though the tests indicated that I was ovulating, it always ended each month in disappointment. All of my husbands tests have come back great, and the Dr. has never really said why I have not been ovulating on my own. With my IUI cycles I always had mature eggs, but never got pregnant. Hopefully IVF will be the answer for us.
Mummy- congratulations! I will be praying for a healthy pregnancy for you!
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4/10/2010 8:12 AM
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Hi all. Congratulations, Mummy! Looks like all is going well so far. I know it is hard not to worry, just take one day at a time, that's all you can do.
I went in for my baseline yesterday. Everything looks good. I dropped my Lupron down to 7 and started Estradiol 2mg per day. I don't go back for an u/s & b/w until 4/20 which just seems so weird. I know I've read on here that FET is so much easier, but just seems so weird that I don't have to go back to the dr's for another 11 days. But I'm not complaining!
Also, one of my friends asked me to be in her wedding. I feel honored and yet a little anxiety about being a bridesmaid at 39. Also one of the girls in the bridal party is pregnant. The wedding is in September and she is due in October. I am sure hoping that I will be pregnant before then or else it may be hard to look at her and not want to cry. Why is this all so hard! UHG!!
Ok, gonna head off to work for an hour or 2. My department is moving into another building at the end of the month and I need to clean up some papers at my desk (about 12 boxes worth).
I hope everyone has a great weekend. The sun is shining here.
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4/9/2010 11:41 PM
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Hey girls so my beta weds not even a full 2.7 days (which is actually how long it should take for a beta to double, it should close to double in 48 hours) but less then 48 hours weds and my beta went up to 583....I get my ivig treatment Mon-Tues started me on progesterone today and I went to the immune doc this am and he shared with me that he has had a few women who absolutely could not get pregnant and he started them on prednisone and one other medication for their auto-immune treatment and a month later they were pregnant and these are women like us....actually in a worse situation due to the auto-immune....he said that the steriods thin the ovary lining allowing women who have NEVER ovulated to ovulate...amazing info I thought He is sure that is how I ended pregnant.....So next week begins the heprin which I heard was worse then the progesterone but hey it will be worth it hopefully! So far so good no spotting no bleeding and feeling kinda sick especially when I eat Food is grossing me out....except sugar!!!! Nwells trust in me oh girl do I get that pit sitting watching teenagers walking out of the doc office especially the ones in the RE's office...WTH are they doing in the first place? I am a nervous wreck as any of you can imagine but also feel like God has this under control....just rushed some treatment decision making because we were not planning another cycle for a couple of months to get all the kinks with my health worked out....Hi to the new girls this has been the best support group but the hardest support group emotionally ...every one and each story is so personal and close to home...plus when we have the stupid NEGATIVO test or the terribly painful loses...we are all going to be mothers of several in heaven ...can you imagine all the children we will have when we meet our creator??? OMG! I know I have two plus handfuls myself... Wannabe be safe DO NOT take any nice bags or jelwery with you my mother just traveled to a super nice resort and was still advised not to! I will be praying for travel mercies and wishing I was there sipping pina coladas on the beach with you!!! Nwells why did you not mention how the us went? Toni thanks and I have missed you sister hope all is well MABLAKIE how are the babies? sorry I have been so random just was So depressed and now in total shock I was sure that this was all a mistake!!! But God has showed himself different
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4/9/2010 6:47 PM
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Agahope - I know exactly how you feel. My nurse at the RE said the same thing. That I should have gotten AF within 2 weeks. So I took 2 pregnancy tests hoping against all hope they would be positive. It's hard to do. I hate taking pregnancy tests. But as soon as I went to the RE for blood work AF came 2 days later. So I know how you feel.
btobe - welcome to the site. This is a great site for support and information. If your cycles are irregular have you been on clomid? I know a few people who have PCOS and they got pregnant with it. They just needed help ovulating.
ocamuswo - If you need support you have come to the right place. Deciding what to do is hard for everyone here I think. I had my 1st cycle canceled and I just turned 30. Sometimes I think the RE's need to cancel and change the drug regimen. And it's good they cancel instead of trying to keep going and not getting good eggs. That's the way I tried to look at it. So we didn't spend all our money and end up with bad eggs. I know how frustrating it is. Some of the women on here are in their 40's and tried IVF a few times. Then if they could not get eggs they switched to DE. Because your chances increase by like 50% or some thing like that.
NWells - I am so sorry for your visit to the Dr's office. I know how hard it is to deal with that. I lost it last month when I was at a friends kids bday party and this 23 year old was going on about her pregnancy. She just got out of rehab 2 months before she got pregnant. And her brother my friend found a spoon and needle. She claims it wasn't hers but it obviously was. It's so hard to understand why people like that can have babies. After doing injections I can't imagine why anyone would purposely ever want to inject a needle into themselves.
So next week my boss is having her 3rd baby. I am unsure whether or not I should visit her in the hospital. I have gone for her last 2 so I don't want her to think I don't care and am not being supportive. But I don't know if I can handle going to the hospital and seeing her baby.
Well I hope everyone has a good weekend.
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4/9/2010 5:11 PM
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Lucky3128...thank you for the input. I called my RE today and she said that it is quite unusual that I have not gotten my AF yet. She said most women get it within 2 weeks of quitting the Lupron. She wants me to take a pregnancy test this weekend and call her back Monday with the results. I really don't want to take the test cause I do not want to be disappointed AGAIN!!!
A bit of fun news. We are getting a puppy tomorrow! I am so excited...something to cuddle and care for.
Hope everyone has a relaxing and lovely weekend!!!!
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4/9/2010 4:48 PM
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Thanks everyone for the warm welcome. We are just getting started with the IVF process and my retrieval will hopefully be the first week of May. Since we decided to start the process, this is all I can think about, so this website has been such a welcome relief for me. Everyone's courage gives me courage, and the insight that you all have provided has put my mind a little more at ease
I am 28 yrs old, I have very inconsistent menstrual cycles and my Dr. is unsure if I have PCOS. We have tried 3 IUI's and this will be our 1st IVF cycle. Any advice for a newbie?
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4/9/2010 12:28 PM
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Hello ladies,
welcome to all of you who are new to this forum. Everyone here is very supportive and understanding. It's been a blessing to me. After years of trying to coping with infertility, God answered our prayers with a pregnancy through ovulation induction. The anxieties , worrying and fears still linger and I'm sure it will continue until I have a baby in my arms in Oct. Its not easy when you worry about every bumps and aches and getting scared about a miscarrage which has been all so common to many of us. I wish all of you success stories as you conquer infertility.
I'm doing a little better with the severe morning sickness. I was out of work for almost 2 wks due to dehydration. My OB started me on Zofran which has help a lot. I'm now measuring at 11 wks with U/S . I plan to continue the progesterone supp for one more week. My husband and I go for genetic counseling/testing April 26 (I'm 39, 2 miscarriages). My vitamin D level is low (19) so I have to start taking prescription supplement (I just find that out today).
Mummy: Congratulations. I'm excited for you. enjoy and cherish every moment.
WannaBeAMommy: Enjoy your trip to Mexico. I will be thinking of you and wishing you the best of time!!!!!!
ladybug, toni Nwells and so many wonderful names to list. I just want to let you know that i've been reading about your updates and hoping to hear some awesome news down the road soon. You are all an inspiration to me. I'm glad to be part of this group. Please have great week-end.
Jem
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4/9/2010 11:23 AM
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Hi all,
I'm new to the forum, I just had a cancel ivf cycle, I'm so frustrated, just need to talk to someone, at 40 i don't know if i should continue to try or stop at this point
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4/9/2010 9:08 AM
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Happy Friday!!!!
So Wed was torture, sitting in the office waiting for my 3d ultra sound to make sure everything is ok, looking at the two women with uncontrollable children already, waiting to go in for their ultra sound, and watching three teens come out after getting theirs. I started crying I couldn't help it, seriously it was torture, and to make it worse I asked if I needed to have a full bladder and one of the women said oh your first trimester, you do- I looked at her and said I wish it was my first trimester, my eyes weld up and I had to walk away, THEN my appointment was for 3:15 I got their ten minutes early, and they didn't get to me for over 45 minutes, nothing like making me sit there watching all of this, OH it was AWFUL, I left and cried my self home, thank God I had an hour drive and it is a nice ride so I was able to get it all out, and clear my head. Needless to say I got home went to the lake with my husband, sister n law, my sister and our dogs and drank twisted teas- HAD to after that whole experience!!!!! The doctor that is an expert on 3d uterine ultra sounds was not in the office the day I went so She will have to look at my results to see if she can see anything- if she can't Luck me I get to go back for another. YEAH can't wait!!! lets hope she is satisfied with what she already has and there is nothing there to be seen anyway and I can move on!!!! I am all set with this whole process right now!!! I was spotting yesterday and my ovaries feel like they are ovulating, but I know they are not!!! so who knows!!!
Btobe- welcome you have come to the right place!!! everyone here is awesome!!!!
Wanna- Mexico I wish I could get away!!!! I am heading to SC in June to see my parents and from there going to FL to see my husbands aunt and gram!! can't wait to get way from everything!!! Enjoy your trip and relax!!!!
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4/8/2010 7:09 PM
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Mummy !!!!
Praise Be.
WONDERFUL NEWS SISTER I AM SO OVERJOYED FOR YOU.
Welcome to the new sisters, this place is so wonderful and even when it is only to read the post it helps. You do not feel alone and hopeless.
Love,
Toni
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4/8/2010 6:31 PM
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This is my fist cycle with IVF and I feel sooo much better after reading some of the posts here. My husband and I have been trying on and off for 5 years to have a baby, and I am so excited and terrified to be trying IVF. Thank you for posting your stories...it has reassurred me that it is all worth it!
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4/8/2010 11:45 AM
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agahope - I was going through my first cycle in February. It was canceled and I didn't get AF for 44 days from the 1st day of my Lupron bleed. I thought I was pregnant because I have never been that late. But right after I went to the RE for blood work it came 2 days later. So I think for some women when you mess with your body that way it can take longer. Good Luck.
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4/7/2010 9:59 PM
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Oh, Wannabe, I think a trip away from reality is a great idea. Good job hubby!! Do your best to enjoy your time away. Relax. The weather should be beautiful there, too.
Well, AF showed up today so the baseline is on for this Friday. I was afraid I was going to have to reschedule if AF didn't show up by then but looks like things are progressing as they should be. I'm curious to find out how different the FET is from a fresh cycle. Wow, I've had bad headaches again today, but I can deal. I won't take any pills for them because I don't want to risk anything so I am just coping.
Good night all!! Love ya! Baby dust to all!
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4/7/2010 9:53 PM
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Ladies....
Does anyone have any input on how long it generally takes to get AF after a canceled cycle?
Thanks
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4/7/2010 7:01 PM
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I am freaking out! I work in a physical therapy office with a pool and today they were cleaning the pool with an acid wash.I didn't know and I inhaled the chemicals and they BURNED my lungs and now I am so worried that I caused damage to my developing eggs. It was definitely less than a minute of exposure but it was some serious chemicals. Somebody please tell me I am crazy! The thing is no one really knows and I will never know if it did anything. If this round of IVF doesn't work , will I keep coming back to this day and blaming myself? OMG this stuff can make you crazy! I'm sure I'm OK and I have to think that women get pregnant all the time and they don't know it and they drink or smoke or paint their house or work at a nail salon and their babies are totally fine. But I am so hyper aware of everything and I feel like I will never forgive myself if I do something wrong. STRESS!!!!
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4/7/2010 12:20 PM
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Good morning, everyone!
Thought I would check in today as we are heading to Mexico tomorrow morning for almost 2 weeks. (We originally would have had our C-section this coming week to deliver the boys so my DH surprised me with a trip to keep me occupied. Very sweet.)
Mummy....WHO HOO! That is fantastic news! I am so thrilled for you and your hubby. 167 is a good solid number. You might want to check out Betabase for fun to see how your numbers compare. Very, very happy for you. Hope your RE does everything that needs to be done with your lupus, etc. Congrats to you!
Ladybug....know you're getting close to your FET date. Good luck with your baseline and hope all goes smoothly.
I went to the RE last Friday for a Hydrosonogram to check the uterus to make sure it was all clear. That weren't totally happy with what they saw so we are going to repeat it when I get back from Mexico. If the lining still looks "bumpy" then I will have to have an outpatient Hystroscopy. They think that there may be some residual tissue still in there from the birth of the twins or it good be something else or it could be nothing. Frustrating, but I am really trying to learn to take things as they come as I've realized I have no control over any of it. Started me on Lupron a 4 days early as they want me to stop the BCP early. My blood pressure was running high and they thought the BCP might be a contributing factor. So, the very morning I return from Mexico, I go to the RE for the above tests. Hoping to still have a May FET if all goes well.
Welcome to the new gals! Susan, it's great that you've had high quality embryos to transfer each time but interesting that implantation has been more of your obstacle. Have the embies been at the blast stage? If so, you might want to discuss the following with your RE: what has been your estrogen & progesterone levels at time of transfer, is your lining thick enough? There are things that can be done to thicken your lining if that is an issue. If all of that is great, then you may ask them to consider testing you for various immune or blood clotting disorders. Often times RE's do not do this until after 3 losses, but I am finding that so many women have these issues and need either additional folic acid, baby aspirin, lovenox, etc. in order to conceive. While I am not a huge believer, PGD may be another thing to discuss. Often times embryos "appear" to be of good quality but fail to implant due to chromosomal abnormalities. It's all a crap shoot, but it is good to take each thing one by one and eliminate them. Good luck to you on your next cycle.
mablackie....How did the baby shower go? Been thinking of you and hoping you had a wonderful, wonderful time!
hoping2be....Haven't heard from you in a while. Hope all is well and the pregnancy is going smoothly.
OK, ladies.....take good care and talk with you soon. Adios Amigos! XXOO
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4/7/2010 11:48 AM
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Morning:
Mummy: that is AWESOME!!!! I am so excited for you- maybe your nums are so high because there is two in there :o)!!!!
In regards to the eggs, embryos ect- We have been having issues as most of you know, that is why my husband went for more testing, I am going for the 3d ultra sound and we are actually doing the genetic testing through a company called Counsyl our RE told us we need to do this to rule out any genetic possibility as to why our embies don't grow well and just fizzle out by day 5.
Acupuncture is great but expensive so I have been scattered with it, I really need to start going consistently, because It helped a good friend of mine as well, once she got pregnant she continued through her first trimester to help reduce miscarriage- mind you all, it took her 5 years, she did 3 IUI's and on her forth she produced so many eggs they switched her treatment to IVF, but it put her into hyperstim, so bad that she ended up in the hospital, so they had to freeze her embies, she went through 3 FET the last one took, and she had started acupuncture, she also dropped 30 pounds. She ended up with twins, but she did deliver them 10 weeks early, but they are now 1 and are beautiful!!!!! So Mummy I would continue with the acupuncture!!!!
As for the husbands- epilady my is the same way, he doesn't really express much, his usual response when it doesn't work is aw WTF, again!!!! But I know he is hurting, he doesn't really talk to me about it, but he seems to call his aunt and talk to her, which I guess I can deal with because at least he is talking to someone, plus if he starts talking to me and I see just how much it is affecting him I start to cry. He is my rock and he isn't allowed to get upset and I look at him that way, only I can be emotional and cry and be upset, and he is to take care of me. ANd Ladies lately he has been AMAZING!!!! we have been married 5 years, and living together for 6 and in the last 6 months he has stepped it up so much helping me I am in AWE, sometimes I wonder who he is and what happened to my husband. And looking at it I think that is his way of coping, if he makes sure I am not hurting and ok then he is fine as well. He doesn't even want to talk to our RE about his test results, he told me yesterday that I handel that stuff and she can tell me- I think he is really nervous about it. I mean they are his swimmers if they are the issue I think he will be devastated!!!!! Then we will have a whole other issue!!!! Well ladies I have to get back to work!!
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4/7/2010 8:29 AM
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Good Morning,
I have a question that I hope I can get some advice...I have gone through 3IVF cycles (2 fresh 1 thawed). My embryos were all high quality...1 cycle ended in a miscarriage. I'm not really impressed with my dr. we are meeting with her to talk about what to do next...(more IVF), my husband and I never know what to say in the office with her, she just babbles on...anyone have any questions that I should be asking?! Also, I made a consulation with a new dr, that people think highly of...anything I should be asking him?? It is information overload, and we are nervous too...
Good luck to all! I'm thinking of you...thanks again for the warm welcoming...this forum is helping!
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4/6/2010 11:21 PM
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@NWells: a 3D ultrasound sounds spiffy! Let's teleport some embryos in there! Hope it goes well for you tomorrow.
@jmcph - Your RE should be able to give you some advice about your eggs. Did you do the Clomid challenge and/or the 3 day FSH? Measuring your response, your LH and FSH can give some idea if you're dealing with diminished ovarian reserve. There is some evidence that women with diminished ovarian reserve may have poorer quality eggs. However, there are still women who get pregnant even testing poorly for ovarian reserve.
Egg quality means your eggs are well prepared to develop into embryos upon fertilization. This means having the right number of chromosomes, the ability to accept a single sperm, to combine the egg and sperm chromosomes, to implant in the uterus, and to have the mitochondria (perhaps you remember being introduced to the powerhouse of the cell in HS biology!) produce enough energy to reproduce. (Mitochondria only come from the mother, which I think is cool!) As we get older, our mitochondria provide less energy. So sometimes it might be related to that, but there are no tests (that I know of) for mitochondrial sufficiency. But if you're worried about your chromosomes, they can do chromosome testing to make certain you are genetically normal.
Keep in mind that they think that less than half of the blastocysts in typical contraception are genetically normal. That means you might get an embryo that fails to implant because of its abnormalities. And that's in couples not struggling with infertility issues, which probably result in higher rates of abnormal embryos.
However, if only half of your eggs fertilized, your doctor might recommend a technique called ICSI, where they take a sperm and inject it directly into an egg. That almost guarantees fertilization (although not a guarantee of "normal" fertilization) - ICSI does cost more money, but for us, it's what actually gave me a chance for an implant! Are you dealing with male factor (slow sperm, low sperm, poor morphology (oddly shaped), poor movement)?
But I know what you mean. I had 26 follicles, 19 eggs, 18 mature, 9 IVF and 9 ICSI. I was ecstatic. I thought I'd have leftovers AND some to share. Only one of my IVFs fertilized normally and it degraded on day 2. Of the ICSI, there were 5 options on day 5. They implanted the 2 best. The other 3 degraded on day 6, and did not get frozen.
Good luck: hope your dr gives you encouraging news. Please let us know what (s)he says.
@susan: "my husband is great but to a certain extent he has no idea what we go through." While this is true, my experience is that it's also hard on them. They see us hurting. They are powerless to fix it. Sometimes they hurt too. Sure, they don't have to go through the treatment, the emotional roller-coaster brought on by the drugs and hormone, or through the impropriety having half the town (or at least it feels like it) look at their hoo-haa, but keep in mind that they can hurt too. My husband still won't talk about his anger around our infertility. I ask every few months and he keeps saying, "No, I'm not ready." Okay, then! LOL!
@irishgirl: good luck with your follicle count! I know some women swear by acupuncture. Know why I haven't tried it? I feel like I can't fit anything else into my day. Hmmm, can we say perhaps I have too much stress!!? Reality check just got delivered to my table!!
@Mummy: Yay! @Mummybop: keep growing healthy and strong!
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4/6/2010 9:42 PM
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Irishgirl - good luck tomorrow. Hoping for a good number of follies!
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